Most of us have been connected to someone who has either experienced the devastating loss of a loved one who has taken their own life, have had suicidal thoughts, attempted it, or had experiences where we've believed suicide is the only option left.
I believe we need to honour all feelings and feel safe to express all emotions. It’s so important to normalise how valuable it is to compassionately listen to people speaking about suicide, abuse and other subjects, despite the fact it can trigger emotional responses, cause people to feel pain or discomfort. Because not only is it the backbone of profound healing practices which are collectively beneficial, it’s also been proven to be lifesaving.
Did you know that ‘suicide’ is often not the word mentioned by people who have attempted to or succeeded with taking their own life?
Some of the language that’s preceded suicides or attempted suicides in adults and children…
“I feel so alone.”
“I feel like nobody cares.”
“Nobody is listening to me.”
“I’m always there for others in need, but that compassion is rarely returned.”
“People are so unkind.”
"I feel like no one appreciates me.”
“I feel like nobody gets me.”
“Everyone judges me.”
“I’m different…I don’t fit in…People exclude me.”
“I feel like nobody loves me.”
"I'm not good enough."
“People are so busy…no one cares anymore.”
“I am completely overwhelmed with everything in my life.”
“He/she says I should just get on with it.”
“He/She says I’m too sensitive.”
“He/She says I’m just being silly.”
“It’s too hard to live without her/him.”
“Family are friends with my remorseless abuser.”
It’s not always the more obvious conscious actions such as drug overdose, cutting, shooting, jumping off a bridge or hanging.
WARNING SIGNS may be subconscious things that take away our life force which can be more covert and could also look like...
Very risky behaviour
Regularly drinking too much alcohol
Overuse of prescription drugs
Being too scared to leave an abusive relationship
Consistently not eating or eating far too much
Ingesting toxic substamces
An overwhelmed mind attacking the body
An emotionally abused mind attacking the body
Repeated trauma attacking the mind, systems, organs and cells
Withdrawing from humans
Most people who have taken their own lives have tried to express themselves to others before taking that final devastating action.
Shockingly a doctor said recently that 1 in 4 children are self-harming.
Suicide rates are increasing!
WHAT CAN WE DO?
IT’S MORE IMPORTANT THAT EVER FOR US TO LET OUR LOVED ONES KNOW HOW MUCH WE LOVE THEM.
HOW MUCH WE APPRECIATE THEM.
WHAT A VALUABLE CONTRIBUTION THEY ARE MAKING TO OUR LIVES.
EMPATHICALLY FEELING INTO WHAT'S NOT BEING SAID.
A CRUCIAL PART IS LISTENING DEEPLY TO WHAT'S BEING SAID.
UNDERSTANDING WHAT SOMEONE ELSE'S LOVE LAUNGAGE IS.
Acts of service
Words of affirmation
WE SHOULDN’T OVER GIVE, AS GIVING FROM AN EMPTY LOVE TANK DEPLETES US.
SELF LOVE WITH HEALTHY BOUNDARIES IS KEY TO A HARMONIOUS MIND, BODY AND SOUL.
SO MANY OF US ARE DOING EVERYTHING WE CAN WITH THE RESOURCES, AWARENESS AND KNOWLEDGE WE HAVE TO SUPPORT OURSELVES, IMMEDIATE FAMILY, EXTENDED FAMILY AND COMMUNITIES.
COMMINICATION WITH SELF AND OTHERS IS MORE CRUCIAL THAN EVER!
ARE YOUR NEEDS BEING MET BY YOU AND YOUR LOVED ONES? IDENTIFY WHAT YOUR NEEDS ARE?
HOW CAN YOU HAVE YOUR INDIVIDUAL NEEDS MET?
ASK LOVED ONES WHAT THEIR NEEDS ARE?
ARE THEIR NEEDS BEING MET?
WHAT DOES EACH INDIVIDUAL NEED TO TAKE ACTION/RESPONSIBLIILTY FOR IN ORDER TO SATISFY THEIR OWN NEEDS?
WHAT SUPPORT CAN WE COLLECTIVELY PROVIDE TO SATISFYING EACH OTHERS NEEDS? CAN WE CHECK IN WITH SOMEONE WE HAVEN'T HEARD FROM FOR A WHILE? A RECENT POSTIVE FACEBOOK POST OR ACTIVE MESSENGER OR WHATSAPP STATUS ISN'T AN INDICATION ALL IS WELL! LET’S ALL CONTINUE TO “BE LOVE” AND BE THERE FOR OURSELVES AND EACH OTHER.
IT'S ALSO IMPORTANT TO GET THE APPROPRIATE PROFESSIONAL SUPPORT WHEN NEEDED.